Expecting your “identity” or “self-expression” to be treated by others as reality is incredibly arrogant and self-centered.
The world does not revolve around you.
I oppose wrong beliefs and ideologies, not people. Had I walked in another's shoes, I might believe and do as they believe and do. I don't oppose people. I seek to persuade them. Wrong beliefs and ideologies are forever wrong, but a wrong person can choose to become right.